This a link to an article written by a white gay man explaining why on his Grindr profile he has selected the options “white whites only”. In this article he uses a lot of color blind rhetoric. He talks about how he has black gay friends as proof that he isn’t racist. The article goes on to talk about how he hears his black and Latino friends talk about how the even in the gay world there is a normalization of whiteness, and how its hard for them to find partners. He however talks about how that isn’t an issue for him. This follows the “I’m not black so I wouldn’t understand” colorblind rhetorical device. At one point he talks about his black friend who commented that white guys are brainwashed by societal beauty norms. The author replies that his would mean that his friend was too brainwashed. Though his black friend agreed I disagree. While it is true that black people sometimes prefer white people I would argue that the brainwashing is at a lesser degree because while black people do see the same media as whites they often recognize that they aren’t represented. At some point or other black people start to notice that they are not the majority where as white people might never realize that they are over represented. Also with black people even if they grow up in a suburban white bread world they still have their family. The more people try and defend that they are not racist the more they appear to be just that. Even people that seem to understand white privilege or at least know that it exist speak in a way that shows their color blind racism. Why are some people more affected by the media and society’s brainwashing than others? If everyone knew the same facts would there still be these differences in understanding? Is it a matter of acceptance?